Been reading this book (title above, edited by Mary Brownescombe Heller and Sheena Pollet) that according to the back cover “provides a comprehensive insight into the ways in which psychoanalysts think and work.”
Here are some thoughts on the concept of “containment,” as illustrated through the lens of parent-infant relationship.
"CONTAINMENT"
THE THEORY (described by Bion, 1962, paraphrased here):
-Baby depends on mother to manage said baby’s “unbearable experience” which baby can convey to her w/o words (through gestures, etc).
-Baby disposes this unbearable or unmanageable experience (labeled a beta element) to mother by projecting it on her
-Mother takes in this unmanageable experience, reflects on it (reverie), then returns this to the child in the form of a modified, more bearable experience (alpha element). Returning the reflected-on beta element, for the mother, is performing her alpha function.
-Alpha elements can be used for thinking, so the baby can then think a rudimentary thought.
-The whole process is containment. Bion considered it a “crucial factor in the infant’s developing the capacity to manage his own experience and to think.”
COMMON SENSE TRANSLATION (in case you didnt get it the first time around)
-Baby conveys difficult emotions through gestures, aura, crude baby-like sounds, etc.
(Poor) tennis analogy: On the ad-side, baby hits a mean kick serve to mother’s backhand.
-Mother processes the baby’s harsh emotions with her motherly wisdom, and returns a gentler more manageable response to the baby, again via gestures, aura, subtle facial expressions, etc.
With Agassi-like prowess, mother steps inside the baseline, takes the kick serve early with a compact backhand, almost no backswing, and remarkable reaction time. Unlike Agassi, she feathers this return to baby’s forehand, right in his comfort zone.
-Baby thinks, and therefore learns to deal with life, from mother’s returned (modified) response.
Baby drills a forehand winner down the line. He wins – at tennis, and at life, which tennis is supposedly a great representation of. He learns to think, on the court and off.
REAL-WORLD IMPLICATIONS
I believe we should be able to use this process of “containment” to develop the depressed person’s capacity to manage his own experience differently.
Sure, a college-student’s mind may not have the same level of plasticity as an infant’s, but I’d say we’re at an even more influenceable stage of life – perhaps even the most influenceable age. At least in terms of higher-level decision-making and cognitive choices (combined with the opportunity to explore), there’s no time like now for change.
And make no mistake, it’s entirely possible for someone, even with the severest depression and the most stubborn/unwilling personality, to change the way he manages his experiences.
Two people might experience the same or a similar experience. Due to personal factors/worldview/innate character traits, one might react positively (manage the experience well), and the other might react negatively (manage the experience poorly).
Is the second person doomed to forever poorly manage his experiences? Hell no. It’s never late to change, even (and perhaps especially) for someone of college age. I know because I did it. It's hard work, but it’s entirely possible.
THE QUESTION IS, HOW?
To what extent is talking useful? How about taking action (for instance, by embracing one's passions in the effort to develop a sense of self-worth)? Does action really have to be premeditated for a specific consequence in order for beneficial changes to take place? Etc.
I'll definitely have these kinds of questions in mind as we look to start the pilot program for our social venture.
Keep reading as I keep reading, and as I retrospect and extrapolate from my own life to try to figure out how to codify the process as much as possible.
The important thing is to turn all this theory into something:
1 Actionable
2 Scalable
Our venture will have limited impact unless we can find a way to do this.
Anyone have any ideas?
-David
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
“Dancing” – Intro (Your Individual Style)
Been reading “Dancing” by Ellen Jacob. Here are some quotes and thoughts from the first chapter, titled “Your Individual Style.”
“What makes you a good dancer is not trying to be someone you’re not…What makes you a good dancer is being yourself, but more so.”
Don’t know about you, but this reminds me of the “longing for your giant self” Kahlil Gibran spoke of in “The Prophet” (see my post On Education – Intro).
Seriously, you hear people talk about this kind of “embrace yourself” stuff all the time, and it sounds cliché, I know. I talk about it all the time, I guess, and sometimes I feel like I’m beating it to death. But it’s so true.
“Underneath all that you do ticks an individual style that makes you the inimitable person – and dancer – you are. The singular form and structure of your body, how they make you move, your sense of timing, your feelings and your experiences are the raw materials you have to work with as a dancer. However limiting they may seem sometimes, they are your lump of clay, ready to be kneaded and shaped into movement. Success – whether for yourself of before an audience – depends to a great extent on how effectively you can make your unique qualities of body and spirit work for you.”
I’m telling you, this is absolutely true. I’ve been through the wanting-to-be-someone-else thing before. To the extreme.
When I was still at UChicago as a premed (briefly), one factor that drove me further into my depression was the sense that no matter how hard I tried, I’d never be able to fit into the whole culture of medicine.
In my heart, I was sure I’d make for a good doctor – I had the genuine desire to work with people, the relentless work ethic (once I decided I wanted to be a doctor, I got straight A’s), the mental toughness, and the intelligence, both practical and academic.
But somehow I knew I just didn’t have that doctor persona, or at least the one that people typically associate with doctors. The fact is, it’s not the doctor persona that heals people – it’s the doctor. But med school admissions boards didn’t really seem hip to that, at least from what I could tell from my anally extensive research into admissions forums (every premed does this, all the time, it’s practically part of homeostasis for them). And frankly, our society values this persona so much, it’s gotten to the point where it might actually be important for patients in terms of the placebo effect.
But to get back to “Dancing.”
“Many dancers stop far short of realizing their potential because they feel they don’t fit some stereotyped notion of what a dancer should be. Or they make the mistake of trying to cram themselves into an ill-fitting mold. In doing so, they lose their greatest ally, the natural dancer within. For dancing is best and most enjoyable when you use it to express – not suppress – yourself. There is a mushrooming effect: The more of yourself you can put into dancing, the more satisfying it will be both for you and for others watching you.”
You see? Dancing is best when you use it to express yourself. And expressing yourself – being genuine – makes you a more attractive person to others too.
My friends sometimes say I’m socially awkward as hell. I’m also somewhat culturally retarded in terms of knowing things that people my age generally know. I don’t deny any of this – I just tend to think of it in a different light. Social awkwardness, if it’s the result of being genuine and expressing oneself, practically converges to confidence.
And we all know how sexy confidence is, right?
I’ve learned not to waste a single ounce of my energy trying to be anyone but myself. If I don’t feel like watching the Superbowl, then fuck the Superbowl. Some people may think I’m an idiot, but many people who get to know me seem to like me just fine.
I’m telling you, there exists an immediate understanding between two genuine people, an awareness, an intangible bond. Even if they have little in common, the fact that they’re genuine and that they pursue their own interests with passion – that’s the strongest basis for friendship there is.
I’ve been fortunate in my life to have met a few people like this, and these people are the ones I feel most kinship with. Just the thought of them serves as a shot of inspiration to the soul.
And you know what? Freeing myself from the stressful and energy-requiring “conforming process” allows me to devote myself to the loads of other way more interesting things out there. Like dancing, for example.
But back to “Dancing.”
“The pages of dance history are filled with accounts of dancers who learned to capitalize on what they could do rather than be limited by what they couldn’t change…Ironically, many of the concert pieces we see today are the product of a certain dancer’s inability to conform to the prevailing standards of his or her day. Steps, whole dances and entire movement styles have been invented out of a choreographer’s personal oddities – which have, in fact, turned out not to be limitations but openings into new ways of moving.”
I have Tourette’s syndrome. As an actor, I worry a lot about this. Trying to control my tics can be a pain in the ass. But sometimes I get the feeling that paying attention to them and trying to control them lends me an extra awareness of my body that gives me a leg up when it comes to acting. Perhaps this is just my way of trying to justify a weakness. But regardless, I’m excited to see how I maneuver around my Tourette’s as I try to get my acting career off the ground.
“If you wish to make the most of your dancing ability, you cannot afford to sacrifice your personal style by slavishly pursuing an ideal body form or a movement idiom that happens to be prized by current fashion…if you want to dance, and dance well, whatever you’ve got is all you need. Indeed it is the greatest thing you have to offer.”
“'Style is character,' exclaims novelist Joan Didion. Style is an act of courage.”
Have the sand to embrace your individual style and express yourself.
-David
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“What makes you a good dancer is not trying to be someone you’re not…What makes you a good dancer is being yourself, but more so.”
Don’t know about you, but this reminds me of the “longing for your giant self” Kahlil Gibran spoke of in “The Prophet” (see my post On Education – Intro).
Seriously, you hear people talk about this kind of “embrace yourself” stuff all the time, and it sounds cliché, I know. I talk about it all the time, I guess, and sometimes I feel like I’m beating it to death. But it’s so true.
“Underneath all that you do ticks an individual style that makes you the inimitable person – and dancer – you are. The singular form and structure of your body, how they make you move, your sense of timing, your feelings and your experiences are the raw materials you have to work with as a dancer. However limiting they may seem sometimes, they are your lump of clay, ready to be kneaded and shaped into movement. Success – whether for yourself of before an audience – depends to a great extent on how effectively you can make your unique qualities of body and spirit work for you.”
I’m telling you, this is absolutely true. I’ve been through the wanting-to-be-someone-else thing before. To the extreme.
When I was still at UChicago as a premed (briefly), one factor that drove me further into my depression was the sense that no matter how hard I tried, I’d never be able to fit into the whole culture of medicine.
In my heart, I was sure I’d make for a good doctor – I had the genuine desire to work with people, the relentless work ethic (once I decided I wanted to be a doctor, I got straight A’s), the mental toughness, and the intelligence, both practical and academic.
But somehow I knew I just didn’t have that doctor persona, or at least the one that people typically associate with doctors. The fact is, it’s not the doctor persona that heals people – it’s the doctor. But med school admissions boards didn’t really seem hip to that, at least from what I could tell from my anally extensive research into admissions forums (every premed does this, all the time, it’s practically part of homeostasis for them). And frankly, our society values this persona so much, it’s gotten to the point where it might actually be important for patients in terms of the placebo effect.
But to get back to “Dancing.”
“Many dancers stop far short of realizing their potential because they feel they don’t fit some stereotyped notion of what a dancer should be. Or they make the mistake of trying to cram themselves into an ill-fitting mold. In doing so, they lose their greatest ally, the natural dancer within. For dancing is best and most enjoyable when you use it to express – not suppress – yourself. There is a mushrooming effect: The more of yourself you can put into dancing, the more satisfying it will be both for you and for others watching you.”
You see? Dancing is best when you use it to express yourself. And expressing yourself – being genuine – makes you a more attractive person to others too.
My friends sometimes say I’m socially awkward as hell. I’m also somewhat culturally retarded in terms of knowing things that people my age generally know. I don’t deny any of this – I just tend to think of it in a different light. Social awkwardness, if it’s the result of being genuine and expressing oneself, practically converges to confidence.
And we all know how sexy confidence is, right?
I’ve learned not to waste a single ounce of my energy trying to be anyone but myself. If I don’t feel like watching the Superbowl, then fuck the Superbowl. Some people may think I’m an idiot, but many people who get to know me seem to like me just fine.
I’m telling you, there exists an immediate understanding between two genuine people, an awareness, an intangible bond. Even if they have little in common, the fact that they’re genuine and that they pursue their own interests with passion – that’s the strongest basis for friendship there is.
I’ve been fortunate in my life to have met a few people like this, and these people are the ones I feel most kinship with. Just the thought of them serves as a shot of inspiration to the soul.
And you know what? Freeing myself from the stressful and energy-requiring “conforming process” allows me to devote myself to the loads of other way more interesting things out there. Like dancing, for example.
But back to “Dancing.”
“The pages of dance history are filled with accounts of dancers who learned to capitalize on what they could do rather than be limited by what they couldn’t change…Ironically, many of the concert pieces we see today are the product of a certain dancer’s inability to conform to the prevailing standards of his or her day. Steps, whole dances and entire movement styles have been invented out of a choreographer’s personal oddities – which have, in fact, turned out not to be limitations but openings into new ways of moving.”
I have Tourette’s syndrome. As an actor, I worry a lot about this. Trying to control my tics can be a pain in the ass. But sometimes I get the feeling that paying attention to them and trying to control them lends me an extra awareness of my body that gives me a leg up when it comes to acting. Perhaps this is just my way of trying to justify a weakness. But regardless, I’m excited to see how I maneuver around my Tourette’s as I try to get my acting career off the ground.
“If you wish to make the most of your dancing ability, you cannot afford to sacrifice your personal style by slavishly pursuing an ideal body form or a movement idiom that happens to be prized by current fashion…if you want to dance, and dance well, whatever you’ve got is all you need. Indeed it is the greatest thing you have to offer.”
“'Style is character,' exclaims novelist Joan Didion. Style is an act of courage.”
***
Have the sand to embrace your individual style and express yourself.
-David
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Monday, February 8, 2010
On Pride – Intro (Humility, a source of strength and pride)
Pride is a messy concept, and I guess it makes for a somewhat messy blog category too (Shame, Self Worth, Confidence, anyone?).
Top dog on the list of Cardinal Sins (7 Deadly Sins), we hear premonitions about how Pride will lead to your downfall, etc. No one likes an arrogant big-headed jerk unless they are one, right?
That being said, I think there are many things one can do to cultivate a sense of pride in oneself, and that taken together, these (sometimes very small) things can be a powerful antidote to depression.
With this in mind, I’ve decided to start a series of posts on Pride, of which this is the introductory post, where I will share my ideas and tips on how to cultivate a sense of pride in oneself.
For today, though, I’d like to go off track a little, stay more in the realm of the general, and discuss Humility.
There may be some people who think of humility as the converse of pride – who think the two are diametrically opposed.
I strongly disagree (though of course the terms themselves are pretty broad, and at a certain point it might just come to semantics). Let me explain:
For a while now, I’ve recognized an element of humility that I approach all of my endeavors with. This is somewhat difficult to explain, because on the one hand I tend to approach most things with the belief that I can conquer them, at least to a significant degree (and given a lot of hard work and a lot of time).
What I mean to convey is that I hold a tremendous respect, a reverence even, for the challenges I take on. Take acting, for example, a new pursuit of mine.
When I think of myself as an actor, I don’t think of myself as merely someone who is manipulating his body and his voice to achieve a certain desired effect, although that technically could be one way to define what an actor does.
No, I think much bigger than that. As an actor, I think of myself as someone who has the chance to uplift humanity. You know that magical feeling you get when you’re sitting in the theatre and you experience on the screen a moment so real, so true, it hits you strong, deep past just your immediate visual/auditory senses?
As an actor, I think of myself as one of many hopefuls – hopeful to one day earn the chance to create that feeling of magic.
And I am enormously proud to have this opportunity.
But I recognize that all of it together – all that is “Acting” – is far greater than any individual’s prowess or ability. (Even the mad skillz of Daniel Day Lewis. Damn he’s good.)
I recognize this when I think of all the people for whom going to the movies/theatre is their one chance for relief from the hardship of life – their chance for fantasy, for solace from reality. I think of all the brave artists who paved the way for this art form, who worked hard and gave their lives to set up the acting studios and share their expertise through books – to nurture the hopefuls like me. And I think of all the other actors out there who stake their lives on a dream (and wait tables or write on the side). And so on.
When I think about things in this “big picture” kind of way, I experience a tremendous feeling of humility.
And I draw tremendous strength from this humility.
It seems there are a lot of big name celebrities (and other people) these days who are pretty caught up in themselves. Some of these people seem to think they’re a personal incarnation of God.
I don’t actually have any problem with these people – if it helps them perform better to be a conceited asshole, fine by me. I don’t really give a shit, to be honest.
But what does strike me as pathetic about the celebrity God-complex is how much these people seem to rely on the spotlight for their self-worth. What happens if their gift or ability to perform is suddenly taken away (freak accident, etc)? What happens when they get old? When people stop constantly shoving microphones in their face and kissing their ass? What then?
These people have over-inflated senses of pride, and like with all over-inflated bubbles, something will eventually (inevitably) burst (see “Super Bubble”: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=90328243). Consequences often aren’t pretty.
If you ground yourself in humility, however, you are invincible to this kind of weakness.
Seriously, if I lost a limb in a car accident tomorrow (and that would pretty definitively preclude me from most roles, I’d say), I’d be pissed, probably even devastated, but my sense of self-worth, my sense of pride – I’m confident all of this would stay strong for me and remain intact. And that’s because I’m aware that in the grand scheme of things, I’m just one more hopeful actor in a slew of them, all of us playing one infinitesimally small role in the vast and illustrious history of all of theatre.
So what if things don’t pan out for me in particular? Things will go on w/o me, and I’ll channel my talents elsewhere.
Knowing I can handle this truth gives me incredible strength.
Humility gives me incredible strength.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s hard to develop this kind of mindset (it took me a long time). And as someone with a pocketful of dreams (shoutout to Alicia Keys), I know very well what it’s like to feel like you’re constantly in revolution on the inside – to feel that explosive desire for the chance to show the world what you’re made of.
But coming to terms with my own insignificance, and my own humility – that has been a great source of strength for me.
And I take great pride in the fact that I’m able to do it - able to stay humble - day in and day out. In my mind, that alone makes me a sweeter human being than a lot of the self-absorbed (sometimes even talented) people out there.
Recently, I started reading Oscar Wilde’s “De Profundis.” When I get the chance to finish it, I’ll put up a post on it (lots of good relevant stuff). But for now, I suggest that you listen to Fort Minor's "Remember the Name" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ska8_JAtL8)
Despite the song’s title, note how even someone w/the ghetto mentality can channel pride into loyalty (to one’s clique) and artistry, rather than money and status.
Note humility for opportunity.
Note how being humble does not preclude you from striving, and how it can actually serve as a strength and a source of pride.
Check back in for more on Pride! Future posts won't be this abstract, I promise…
-David
Top dog on the list of Cardinal Sins (7 Deadly Sins), we hear premonitions about how Pride will lead to your downfall, etc. No one likes an arrogant big-headed jerk unless they are one, right?
That being said, I think there are many things one can do to cultivate a sense of pride in oneself, and that taken together, these (sometimes very small) things can be a powerful antidote to depression.
With this in mind, I’ve decided to start a series of posts on Pride, of which this is the introductory post, where I will share my ideas and tips on how to cultivate a sense of pride in oneself.
For today, though, I’d like to go off track a little, stay more in the realm of the general, and discuss Humility.
There may be some people who think of humility as the converse of pride – who think the two are diametrically opposed.
I strongly disagree (though of course the terms themselves are pretty broad, and at a certain point it might just come to semantics). Let me explain:
For a while now, I’ve recognized an element of humility that I approach all of my endeavors with. This is somewhat difficult to explain, because on the one hand I tend to approach most things with the belief that I can conquer them, at least to a significant degree (and given a lot of hard work and a lot of time).
What I mean to convey is that I hold a tremendous respect, a reverence even, for the challenges I take on. Take acting, for example, a new pursuit of mine.
When I think of myself as an actor, I don’t think of myself as merely someone who is manipulating his body and his voice to achieve a certain desired effect, although that technically could be one way to define what an actor does.
No, I think much bigger than that. As an actor, I think of myself as someone who has the chance to uplift humanity. You know that magical feeling you get when you’re sitting in the theatre and you experience on the screen a moment so real, so true, it hits you strong, deep past just your immediate visual/auditory senses?
As an actor, I think of myself as one of many hopefuls – hopeful to one day earn the chance to create that feeling of magic.
And I am enormously proud to have this opportunity.
But I recognize that all of it together – all that is “Acting” – is far greater than any individual’s prowess or ability. (Even the mad skillz of Daniel Day Lewis. Damn he’s good.)
I recognize this when I think of all the people for whom going to the movies/theatre is their one chance for relief from the hardship of life – their chance for fantasy, for solace from reality. I think of all the brave artists who paved the way for this art form, who worked hard and gave their lives to set up the acting studios and share their expertise through books – to nurture the hopefuls like me. And I think of all the other actors out there who stake their lives on a dream (and wait tables or write on the side). And so on.
When I think about things in this “big picture” kind of way, I experience a tremendous feeling of humility.
And I draw tremendous strength from this humility.
It seems there are a lot of big name celebrities (and other people) these days who are pretty caught up in themselves. Some of these people seem to think they’re a personal incarnation of God.
I don’t actually have any problem with these people – if it helps them perform better to be a conceited asshole, fine by me. I don’t really give a shit, to be honest.
But what does strike me as pathetic about the celebrity God-complex is how much these people seem to rely on the spotlight for their self-worth. What happens if their gift or ability to perform is suddenly taken away (freak accident, etc)? What happens when they get old? When people stop constantly shoving microphones in their face and kissing their ass? What then?
These people have over-inflated senses of pride, and like with all over-inflated bubbles, something will eventually (inevitably) burst (see “Super Bubble”: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=90328243). Consequences often aren’t pretty.
If you ground yourself in humility, however, you are invincible to this kind of weakness.
Seriously, if I lost a limb in a car accident tomorrow (and that would pretty definitively preclude me from most roles, I’d say), I’d be pissed, probably even devastated, but my sense of self-worth, my sense of pride – I’m confident all of this would stay strong for me and remain intact. And that’s because I’m aware that in the grand scheme of things, I’m just one more hopeful actor in a slew of them, all of us playing one infinitesimally small role in the vast and illustrious history of all of theatre.
So what if things don’t pan out for me in particular? Things will go on w/o me, and I’ll channel my talents elsewhere.
Knowing I can handle this truth gives me incredible strength.
Humility gives me incredible strength.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s hard to develop this kind of mindset (it took me a long time). And as someone with a pocketful of dreams (shoutout to Alicia Keys), I know very well what it’s like to feel like you’re constantly in revolution on the inside – to feel that explosive desire for the chance to show the world what you’re made of.
But coming to terms with my own insignificance, and my own humility – that has been a great source of strength for me.
And I take great pride in the fact that I’m able to do it - able to stay humble - day in and day out. In my mind, that alone makes me a sweeter human being than a lot of the self-absorbed (sometimes even talented) people out there.
Recently, I started reading Oscar Wilde’s “De Profundis.” When I get the chance to finish it, I’ll put up a post on it (lots of good relevant stuff). But for now, I suggest that you listen to Fort Minor's "Remember the Name" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ska8_JAtL8)
Despite the song’s title, note how even someone w/the ghetto mentality can channel pride into loyalty (to one’s clique) and artistry, rather than money and status.
Note humility for opportunity.
Note how being humble does not preclude you from striving, and how it can actually serve as a strength and a source of pride.
Check back in for more on Pride! Future posts won't be this abstract, I promise…
-David
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Update
Hey all,
Just a heads up - I'll be spending a lot of time now freelancing and working on a book, among other things, so I'll be blogging more sporadically.
I should still be able to do one or two posts a week, but I won't be able to pull the 20+ entries in a month anymore.
Please stay with me - keep reading!
-David
P.S. Check out the new feedback box Colin installed - if you ever want to reach me via email (about anything at all), go ahead and give me a shout!
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Just a heads up - I'll be spending a lot of time now freelancing and working on a book, among other things, so I'll be blogging more sporadically.
I should still be able to do one or two posts a week, but I won't be able to pull the 20+ entries in a month anymore.
Please stay with me - keep reading!
-David
P.S. Check out the new feedback box Colin installed - if you ever want to reach me via email (about anything at all), go ahead and give me a shout!
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Friday, February 5, 2010
On Motivation – Wanting to give up
I would like to dispel a myth today – the myth that successful people are determined from day one and never for a second think about giving up.
Of course I can’t make this claim with absolute certainty. I suppose it’s possible there are outliers – people with wills of steel (or perhaps just a powerful ability to deny) – but being that these people are just plain better than me and clearly possess a definitive superiority over the rest of the human race…well, I try not to think about them too much. I mean, that’s just discouraging.
Now, I’m a very determined person. I’ve got big plans, and I’m not afraid to talk about them because I know that even though they may not work out, I will do anything within the realm of possibility to give them even the smallest chance of success. (Forget modesty when it comes to your ambitions – I say talk a huge game, bust your ass trying to walk as much of it as you can, and then be happy with the outcome, and with yourself.)
All this being said, I still think about giving up sometimes. Pretty often, actually.
That’s right. On a semi-regular basis, maybe once or twice a week, I think about giving up. I think, Fuck this, I’m done.
Seriously, when I’m in the moment, experiencing this kind of feeling, it’s not a casual thing. It’s real contemplation, real consideration.
Specifically, when I think about giving up on our social venture, I think:
Why bust my butt (unsolicitedly) trying to help other people overcome depression and unleash their potential? Why (practically) impose my ideas on the world and come off as an arrogant prick? Why intrude on other people’s lives and disturb the peace (and put myself in uncomfortable situations in doing so)? Really, most of the time I’m a pretty solitary guy and would just prefer to leave everyone alone.
Why tackle such a seemingly vague and amorphous challenge, one with murky metrics and colossally entrenched interests?
Why not look out for number one? I’ve got a lot of other interests, and I’m well aware that I won’t always be young and vigorous or what have you. Physical peak is, what, 26?
Why not give up?
Two nights ago, on the way back from dance class in the city, I passed out on the train and overslept my stop. I woke up just as we were pulling away, the “Princeton Junction” sign mocking me through the windows of the train.
Fuck, do they even have another train running back towards New York this late at night?
I got off at the next stop, Hamilton, and it was utterly deserted. Train station barren, shrouded in the dark night.
Standing there with my duffel slung over my shoulder, I realized it’d been a long time since I’d experienced this kind of aloneness.
Let me tell you, it’s one thing to be alone. Being alone and cold is another thing entirely. (Being alone and cold and hungry is yet a third, but thankfully I’d eaten that day)
I checked the schedule on the bulletin – one last train headed my way in the night schedule, 1:05. Hallelujah. Then I checked my watch. 12:40.
To pass the time, I ran thoughts through my head, even though I didn’t feel like it. Blackbody radiation…anything with mass gives off heat, yes? I should stay near the train station building, right?
I slipped my bag off and started rehearsing the new choreography, but I didn’t know it well enough to do it alone, and w/o the music (Lady Gaga ft. Beyonce – “Telephone”).
I would’ve worked on memorizing my monologue, but I didn’t have my gloves and it was too cold to hold a book with exposed fingers.
Then someone else showed up.
Visually prejudiced, I immediately judged him as a rough character by his clothes and his luggage. But when he stepped back and lit a cigarette, I practically could’ve hugged the guy.
That simple gesture of lighting up was such a human gesture, it immediately comforted me.
I felt infinitely less alone – such is the gift of being around other people. It’s something we often take for granted, but isolate yourself for long enough and you really learn to appreciate it. Trust me on this one.
Anyway, a few minutes after 1:05, the train came, and the two of us boarded.
There were five of us in that section of the train. Two were uniformed Assistant Conductors. The other two turned out to be transit workers as well, just getting off duty to go home for the night. And me.
Two of them struck up a conversation. Then one of the off-duty transit workers looked up, slipped off his headphones, and said,
“You talking about what happened yesterday?”
They weren’t at all, but they let him continue.
“Yeah, well, yesterday I was coming home at like 1 AM, and there was a big commotion over here, lots of police cars and stuff. They didn’t let us get off, took us straight to Trenton, and you could see a body wrapped in a sheet. Someone threw themselves in front of the train. Suicide, apparently. ”
One of the Assistant Conductors: “That’s the fourth one this week. Two on Monday alone.”
I pipe in: “Is that about usual? Four?”
Assistant Conductor: “Well it’s after Christmas. Right after the holidays, that’s when you see a lot.”
Off-duty transit worker: “Yeah, suicide…must be depression. A LOT of depression out there.”
Other off-duty transit worker: “Man, people just react differently, you know? I mean, you get in some financial trouble or something, what’s that worth killing yourself over, you know? Then you just putting some financial troubles on your family, ‘cause now they gotta bury you.”
Me: “Well, it’s not a logical decision at that point. The brain does nothing but register constant intense pain, so it seeks escape.”
At that point we pulled into Princeton Junction so I got off, unable to continue the conversation, but thoughts were racing through my mind.
Sometimes the sheer magnitude of the challenge we’re going at scares the shit out of me. No joke, I get terrified.
Our venture only addresses one tiny portion of that challenge – and that alone terrifies me.
Everywhere I go, I bump into people who reaffirm the reality of the challenge. And that terrifies me.
Seriously, it’s unreal how widespread depression is these days. And often you wouldn’t know it unless something came up that smacked you in the face. People don’t really ever talk about it, it seems, unless they’ve personally been affected by it in some way.
I was talking to a cafeteria worker at Olin, John, about our social venture a while ago, and John said to me, “Depression? You won’t have trouble finding business there. Depression, that’s everywhere…”
At an open call in NYC with RE:QUEST Model Management, they asked me what my hobbies were. I guess I don’t really have any these days, so I told them I was working on a social venture to help college kids fight depression. One of the guys cynically put out, “Hmm. Pop some pills, right?” Then one of the women who worked there said, “Wow, good for you. Good luck!”
In acting class, I met someone who turned out had been diagnosed with schizophrenia/depression in India, and who absolutely detested the way he’d been treated by all the psychiatrists he’d dealt with there. He told me he would’ve loved to have had the chance to try out the kind of program we’re looking to start soon.
At a Brookline Booksmith event in Brookline, MA, I plugged this blog and our social venture during Gretchen Rubin’s talk about her book, “The Happiness Project.” See here for details (sorry Ms. Rubin for using your space, and here’s some publicity back: http://www.gretchenrubin.com/) But people came up to me afterwards, and one woman opened up to me about her nephew in college who has having major problems with depression.
Even business-oriented people I speak with like our idea. A few people have said that they are generally very skeptical of these types of ideas, but that they like ours.
The only trouble is that it may be somewhat of a logistical nightmare to pull off…
The fact is, I consider it a privilege and honor to work in this space.
As much as I want to give up sometimes to pursue my other interests, I know I’m not dropping out on this. I think our idea – hooking people up with their passions in an environment that encourages constructive failure and embraces imperfection – has enormous potential. And not necessarily just for “depressed people” – if I can possibly do it, I’d like to take it to the prisons (Hari has a good story about this) and to the delinquents, and so on.
The fact is, it’s not a new idea. Looking back now, Jane Addams’ Hull House strikes me as similar (if I’m remembering them correctly), and I once read about some sort of “street MBA program” I think. Hell, when we came up with the idea, we had the Boy Scouts and RPG’s in mind…
But ideas are often most about execution and implementation. They’re about people. People who can make things happen.
My gut tells me my team and I are the right people at the right time to make this happen, and for that reason alone, I’m not giving up on this venture.
The thing about wanting to give up, even on the really important things – It’s okay.
As long as in the end you don't.
-David
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Of course I can’t make this claim with absolute certainty. I suppose it’s possible there are outliers – people with wills of steel (or perhaps just a powerful ability to deny) – but being that these people are just plain better than me and clearly possess a definitive superiority over the rest of the human race…well, I try not to think about them too much. I mean, that’s just discouraging.
Now, I’m a very determined person. I’ve got big plans, and I’m not afraid to talk about them because I know that even though they may not work out, I will do anything within the realm of possibility to give them even the smallest chance of success. (Forget modesty when it comes to your ambitions – I say talk a huge game, bust your ass trying to walk as much of it as you can, and then be happy with the outcome, and with yourself.)
All this being said, I still think about giving up sometimes. Pretty often, actually.
That’s right. On a semi-regular basis, maybe once or twice a week, I think about giving up. I think, Fuck this, I’m done.
Seriously, when I’m in the moment, experiencing this kind of feeling, it’s not a casual thing. It’s real contemplation, real consideration.
Specifically, when I think about giving up on our social venture, I think:
Why bust my butt (unsolicitedly) trying to help other people overcome depression and unleash their potential? Why (practically) impose my ideas on the world and come off as an arrogant prick? Why intrude on other people’s lives and disturb the peace (and put myself in uncomfortable situations in doing so)? Really, most of the time I’m a pretty solitary guy and would just prefer to leave everyone alone.
Why tackle such a seemingly vague and amorphous challenge, one with murky metrics and colossally entrenched interests?
Why not look out for number one? I’ve got a lot of other interests, and I’m well aware that I won’t always be young and vigorous or what have you. Physical peak is, what, 26?
Why not give up?
***
Two nights ago, on the way back from dance class in the city, I passed out on the train and overslept my stop. I woke up just as we were pulling away, the “Princeton Junction” sign mocking me through the windows of the train.
Fuck, do they even have another train running back towards New York this late at night?
I got off at the next stop, Hamilton, and it was utterly deserted. Train station barren, shrouded in the dark night.
Standing there with my duffel slung over my shoulder, I realized it’d been a long time since I’d experienced this kind of aloneness.
Let me tell you, it’s one thing to be alone. Being alone and cold is another thing entirely. (Being alone and cold and hungry is yet a third, but thankfully I’d eaten that day)
I checked the schedule on the bulletin – one last train headed my way in the night schedule, 1:05. Hallelujah. Then I checked my watch. 12:40.
To pass the time, I ran thoughts through my head, even though I didn’t feel like it. Blackbody radiation…anything with mass gives off heat, yes? I should stay near the train station building, right?
I slipped my bag off and started rehearsing the new choreography, but I didn’t know it well enough to do it alone, and w/o the music (Lady Gaga ft. Beyonce – “Telephone”).
I would’ve worked on memorizing my monologue, but I didn’t have my gloves and it was too cold to hold a book with exposed fingers.
Then someone else showed up.
Visually prejudiced, I immediately judged him as a rough character by his clothes and his luggage. But when he stepped back and lit a cigarette, I practically could’ve hugged the guy.
That simple gesture of lighting up was such a human gesture, it immediately comforted me.
I felt infinitely less alone – such is the gift of being around other people. It’s something we often take for granted, but isolate yourself for long enough and you really learn to appreciate it. Trust me on this one.
Anyway, a few minutes after 1:05, the train came, and the two of us boarded.
***
There were five of us in that section of the train. Two were uniformed Assistant Conductors. The other two turned out to be transit workers as well, just getting off duty to go home for the night. And me.
Two of them struck up a conversation. Then one of the off-duty transit workers looked up, slipped off his headphones, and said,
“You talking about what happened yesterday?”
They weren’t at all, but they let him continue.
“Yeah, well, yesterday I was coming home at like 1 AM, and there was a big commotion over here, lots of police cars and stuff. They didn’t let us get off, took us straight to Trenton, and you could see a body wrapped in a sheet. Someone threw themselves in front of the train. Suicide, apparently. ”
One of the Assistant Conductors: “That’s the fourth one this week. Two on Monday alone.”
I pipe in: “Is that about usual? Four?”
Assistant Conductor: “Well it’s after Christmas. Right after the holidays, that’s when you see a lot.”
Off-duty transit worker: “Yeah, suicide…must be depression. A LOT of depression out there.”
Other off-duty transit worker: “Man, people just react differently, you know? I mean, you get in some financial trouble or something, what’s that worth killing yourself over, you know? Then you just putting some financial troubles on your family, ‘cause now they gotta bury you.”
Me: “Well, it’s not a logical decision at that point. The brain does nothing but register constant intense pain, so it seeks escape.”
At that point we pulled into Princeton Junction so I got off, unable to continue the conversation, but thoughts were racing through my mind.
***
Sometimes the sheer magnitude of the challenge we’re going at scares the shit out of me. No joke, I get terrified.
Our venture only addresses one tiny portion of that challenge – and that alone terrifies me.
Everywhere I go, I bump into people who reaffirm the reality of the challenge. And that terrifies me.
Seriously, it’s unreal how widespread depression is these days. And often you wouldn’t know it unless something came up that smacked you in the face. People don’t really ever talk about it, it seems, unless they’ve personally been affected by it in some way.
I was talking to a cafeteria worker at Olin, John, about our social venture a while ago, and John said to me, “Depression? You won’t have trouble finding business there. Depression, that’s everywhere…”
At an open call in NYC with RE:QUEST Model Management, they asked me what my hobbies were. I guess I don’t really have any these days, so I told them I was working on a social venture to help college kids fight depression. One of the guys cynically put out, “Hmm. Pop some pills, right?” Then one of the women who worked there said, “Wow, good for you. Good luck!”
In acting class, I met someone who turned out had been diagnosed with schizophrenia/depression in India, and who absolutely detested the way he’d been treated by all the psychiatrists he’d dealt with there. He told me he would’ve loved to have had the chance to try out the kind of program we’re looking to start soon.
At a Brookline Booksmith event in Brookline, MA, I plugged this blog and our social venture during Gretchen Rubin’s talk about her book, “The Happiness Project.” See here for details (sorry Ms. Rubin for using your space, and here’s some publicity back: http://www.gretchenrubin.com/) But people came up to me afterwards, and one woman opened up to me about her nephew in college who has having major problems with depression.
Even business-oriented people I speak with like our idea. A few people have said that they are generally very skeptical of these types of ideas, but that they like ours.
The only trouble is that it may be somewhat of a logistical nightmare to pull off…
***
The fact is, I consider it a privilege and honor to work in this space.
As much as I want to give up sometimes to pursue my other interests, I know I’m not dropping out on this. I think our idea – hooking people up with their passions in an environment that encourages constructive failure and embraces imperfection – has enormous potential. And not necessarily just for “depressed people” – if I can possibly do it, I’d like to take it to the prisons (Hari has a good story about this) and to the delinquents, and so on.
The fact is, it’s not a new idea. Looking back now, Jane Addams’ Hull House strikes me as similar (if I’m remembering them correctly), and I once read about some sort of “street MBA program” I think. Hell, when we came up with the idea, we had the Boy Scouts and RPG’s in mind…
But ideas are often most about execution and implementation. They’re about people. People who can make things happen.
My gut tells me my team and I are the right people at the right time to make this happen, and for that reason alone, I’m not giving up on this venture.
***
The thing about wanting to give up, even on the really important things – It’s okay.
As long as in the end you don't.
-David
[nsn_quick_feedback]
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
On Problem Solving – Intro (Constant vigilance, serendipity, and freelance writing)
The other day I was walking down Princeton’s (somewhat) famed Nassau Street when I ran into a friend’s mother (shoutout to Suzanne and David Kinsey, and to their ever-so-familiar green plates and couch).
We were both on our ways, but we did stop for a brief exchange of words and kindness. I asked about the state of their kitchen (currently under reconstruction). And she asked about the state of my ventures, at the end of which she offered me the following advice:
“Whatever you do, take notes, because at your heart you’re a writer.”
After we parted ways, I played w/that thought in my mind.
At your heart you’re a writer.
Let me tell you something about having little (or no) money: You never stop thinking about it. (At least for me, maybe I’m just a wuss)
You question every purchase – Was this really necessary? Could I have borrowed this from someone?
You veto most purchases in the first place – Alright, this vending machine iced tea is only 1.25, but if I buy this now and then do the same thing 2 other days, that’s like a whole buffet lunch! No, no, I can’t cave…
Then you start running cost-benefit analyses involving subjective things, like time, and things get way complex. (And often self-justifying)
It’s really amazing the number of times you can run through the mental math and still harbor the hope that you should be able to hold out longer than you’ve calculated. You really start to empathize and identify with “creative accountants.”
Slippery slope, no?
The point is, “the money issue” runs through your mind constantly, taking up valuable mental RAM.
Is this really a good thing, given how much other stuff one always seems to have on one’s plate?
Actually, yes.
There are myriad factors that precipitate and contribute to depression.
Each factor represents one challenge for you to take on. Sometimes the factors are intertwined, so that by tackling one challenge, you simultaneously tackle another.
The important thing is to constantly apply yourself to solving these challenges. It doesn’t always have to be a big heroic struggle, but every single day you should do at least one small thing to make the day a little better. Don’t let a single day pass without.
Overcoming depression is to some extent just an exercise in problem-solving.
Effective problem-solving requires unceasing attention to the problem at hand. Even if you’re not thinking specifics, meditation on the problem yields invaluable, if sometimes intangible, benefits.
In the words of Alastor Moody, CONSTANT VIGILANCE!
In the car, in the shower, on a run, in an uninspiring class/meeting/whatever – these are all times for you to meditate on the issues and challenges that are important to you.
Don’t think rigidly – be creative.
In “The Golden Compass,” when Lyra is learning to use the alethiometer, Farder Coram tells her,
“One thing I do know, Lyra, you mustn’t grasp at the answer. Hold the question in your mind, but lightly, like it was something alive.”
Your question is a live one, and so are you, so think and act like it!
If you get some absurd ideas, don’t be afraid to follow through on some of them. Try them out! You won’t always get the result you want, but sometimes what you do get turns out to be even more valuable than what you were originally aiming for. If nothing else, you’ll have learned something, and perhaps you’ll get a fresh idea from your new experiences.
Hit your problems from every possible angle with everything you’ve got.
At your heart you are a writer.
I’d thought about being an (out-of-work) writer before. It seems if one is going to try to make a living from “occupations” that seem to champion unemployment (like I am), one might as well be unemployed in all of them simultaneously.
Although I have zero formal training, with hard work I have a feeling I could probably become an okay writer, and I really do get satisfaction from crafting meaning with words.
No, it was never the “out-of-work” aspect that bothered me about writing for a living. It was more the inability to achieve mass meaningful impact, at least for most writers, and at least for the type of writing that you can actually make a living off of.
There’s a reason it’s said about the difference between journalism and literature:
“The difference between literature and journalism is that journalism is unreadable, and literature is not read”
-Oscar Wilde
But we all have to do things we don’t like sometimes. Compromise is the name of the game when it comes to getting paid.
That night, after running into my friend’s mother, I realized freelance writing is the solution to my money problem.
Sure, writing copy doesn’t often offer much in the way of creative expression, and sure it’s “going commercial” to some extent, but there’s low barrier to entry, and I can do it on the side from wherever I am.
Money. Flexibility. The chance to develop highly efficient writing skills and a broad knowledge base?
Problem solved.
You see how much there is to gain from holding the important questions in your mind at all times?
It prepares you for chance, whether chance takes the form of a random encounter, a few words read off a street sign, a song lyric, or anything else that could inspire a useful idea.
Keep the important questions alive in your mind. Parlay serendipity to do the answering for you.
Check back in for more thoughts and ideas on Problem Solving! I’m sure I’ll be doing a lot of it as I try to break into the freelance writing scene with zero credentials…
-David
[nsn_quick_feedback]
We were both on our ways, but we did stop for a brief exchange of words and kindness. I asked about the state of their kitchen (currently under reconstruction). And she asked about the state of my ventures, at the end of which she offered me the following advice:
“Whatever you do, take notes, because at your heart you’re a writer.”
After we parted ways, I played w/that thought in my mind.
At your heart you’re a writer.
***
Let me tell you something about having little (or no) money: You never stop thinking about it. (At least for me, maybe I’m just a wuss)
You question every purchase – Was this really necessary? Could I have borrowed this from someone?
You veto most purchases in the first place – Alright, this vending machine iced tea is only 1.25, but if I buy this now and then do the same thing 2 other days, that’s like a whole buffet lunch! No, no, I can’t cave…
Then you start running cost-benefit analyses involving subjective things, like time, and things get way complex. (And often self-justifying)
It’s really amazing the number of times you can run through the mental math and still harbor the hope that you should be able to hold out longer than you’ve calculated. You really start to empathize and identify with “creative accountants.”
Slippery slope, no?
The point is, “the money issue” runs through your mind constantly, taking up valuable mental RAM.
Is this really a good thing, given how much other stuff one always seems to have on one’s plate?
Actually, yes.
***
There are myriad factors that precipitate and contribute to depression.
Each factor represents one challenge for you to take on. Sometimes the factors are intertwined, so that by tackling one challenge, you simultaneously tackle another.
The important thing is to constantly apply yourself to solving these challenges. It doesn’t always have to be a big heroic struggle, but every single day you should do at least one small thing to make the day a little better. Don’t let a single day pass without.
Overcoming depression is to some extent just an exercise in problem-solving.
Effective problem-solving requires unceasing attention to the problem at hand. Even if you’re not thinking specifics, meditation on the problem yields invaluable, if sometimes intangible, benefits.
In the words of Alastor Moody, CONSTANT VIGILANCE!
In the car, in the shower, on a run, in an uninspiring class/meeting/whatever – these are all times for you to meditate on the issues and challenges that are important to you.
Don’t think rigidly – be creative.
In “The Golden Compass,” when Lyra is learning to use the alethiometer, Farder Coram tells her,
“One thing I do know, Lyra, you mustn’t grasp at the answer. Hold the question in your mind, but lightly, like it was something alive.”
Your question is a live one, and so are you, so think and act like it!
If you get some absurd ideas, don’t be afraid to follow through on some of them. Try them out! You won’t always get the result you want, but sometimes what you do get turns out to be even more valuable than what you were originally aiming for. If nothing else, you’ll have learned something, and perhaps you’ll get a fresh idea from your new experiences.
Hit your problems from every possible angle with everything you’ve got.
***
At your heart you are a writer.
***
I’d thought about being an (out-of-work) writer before. It seems if one is going to try to make a living from “occupations” that seem to champion unemployment (like I am), one might as well be unemployed in all of them simultaneously.
Although I have zero formal training, with hard work I have a feeling I could probably become an okay writer, and I really do get satisfaction from crafting meaning with words.
No, it was never the “out-of-work” aspect that bothered me about writing for a living. It was more the inability to achieve mass meaningful impact, at least for most writers, and at least for the type of writing that you can actually make a living off of.
There’s a reason it’s said about the difference between journalism and literature:
“The difference between literature and journalism is that journalism is unreadable, and literature is not read”
-Oscar Wilde
But we all have to do things we don’t like sometimes. Compromise is the name of the game when it comes to getting paid.
That night, after running into my friend’s mother, I realized freelance writing is the solution to my money problem.
Sure, writing copy doesn’t often offer much in the way of creative expression, and sure it’s “going commercial” to some extent, but there’s low barrier to entry, and I can do it on the side from wherever I am.
Money. Flexibility. The chance to develop highly efficient writing skills and a broad knowledge base?
Problem solved.
***
You see how much there is to gain from holding the important questions in your mind at all times?
It prepares you for chance, whether chance takes the form of a random encounter, a few words read off a street sign, a song lyric, or anything else that could inspire a useful idea.
Keep the important questions alive in your mind. Parlay serendipity to do the answering for you.
***
Check back in for more thoughts and ideas on Problem Solving! I’m sure I’ll be doing a lot of it as I try to break into the freelance writing scene with zero credentials…
-David
[nsn_quick_feedback]
Monday, February 1, 2010
On Therapy – Intro (It’s all about the people)
When I think about some of the enormous challenges facing the world today, I realize that I firmly believe the solutions for many of these challenges lay right before us, out in the open, absolutely within reach. (Forgive my youthful idealism)
I believe that for many of these challenges, we don’t necessarily need high technology or extreme sophistication.
Off the top of my head, depression (slated to become the world’s 2nd leading disease burden by 2020) and education (it’s pretty much universally accepted we’re in deep trouble) both immediately strike me as crucial areas where advanced science and technology serve a tangential purpose. (Blasphemy, eh?)
Sure, they help, sometimes in revolutionary ways (The internet rocks, man), and sure they’re impressive (Drugs that can correct the chemical imbalances in your brain? Dayummn…). But at a certain point a device is just a device. (Shoutout to Steven and Raphael for our conversation last night that brought some of this stuff to mind)
It’s really all about the people, when you think about it. Of all our resources, human capital is the most undertapped, and holds the most promise.
There’s no question in my mind – what we need most urgently to do is to bring out the best in people. After all, we are the jumping off point for everything else.
To do this, we need to lend wings to the fearlessly creative people who will innovate, and to the relentlessly determined people who will implement.
And innovation often just means throwing together “old” pieces of the puzzle in fresh combinations, and watching magic happen. (Ex – the shipping container is just a box, it’s one of the most important inventions of all time. See here: http://www.gizmag.com/go/5716/)
In the past, I have been critical of therapy as a long-term solution to depression (not that I’m in any credible position to judge, but still, that was my opinion). But the more and more I read about it, the more and more I think therapy holds enormous potential.
I’ve come to realize that my problem with therapy lies not in the theory, but in the implementation. A lot of this has to do with the negative experiences I’ve had with it. At some point, I may share some of these stories with you, so you know where I’m coming from.
The fact is, my world is narrow – I’m young.
As I explore the out-of-the-box alternatives that I think might hold great potential for helping people overcome depression, and as I imagine the day my team and I launch the pilot program for our social venture, I can’t help but think about some of the older, more experienced, more credentialed, more legit professionals who probably will look down on me with utter disdain.
What gives me - a "nobody" - the right to assume such responsibilities?
My response is one that I come back to time and time again:
"To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men – that is genius."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
I’m young, but I do have a good amount and variety of life experience, both when it comes to the challenge I'm dealing with and when it comes to other things. And though my experiences most definitely will not be applicable to everyone, I know that some people resonate with them. As long as there are these few people, I’ll keep on, knowing that it's likely there are more. And based on some of the responses we’ve gotten already, I’m fairly confident we’re on to something with our ideas.
Everything else I need to know, I'll work hard to learn along the way.
But all this being considered, it’s high time I started educating myself on some of the stuff that's already out there - specifically on therapy. Because judging by some of the books I’m reading, there is indeed some incredible work being done by therapists around the world, and I feel it’s highly relevant that I learn about some of it. Of course I won’t be able to acquire the same sort of first-hand experience that an actual practicing therapist would, but I'll still be able to vicariously explore their world and pick their minds for ideas.
And you know what? When you really think about it, therapy really is all about the people. It’s really supposed to just be a mano-a-mano learning session, a transferrance of wisdom from “therapist” to “patient.”
Take off the white coats, strip the elite diplomas from the wall, and remove all the other barriers of ranks and labels and titles, and therapy is really just about finding the best ways for one person to inspire another, or for one person to help another inspire him/herself. At least that's how I see it.
With all this in mind, I’ve decided to start a series of posts on Therapy, of which this is the introductory post.
Check back in for my thoughts and ideas on therapy, as culled from my personal experiences, those of others, whatever literature I can get my hands on, and anything else that comes my way. Often, I will simply recap my findings without drawing connections at first, but I trust that the connections will start to forge themselves afterwards. And I promise to write in as non-academic and as accessible a way as possible. I firmly belive that even the most complex intellectual concepts can be communicated to the layman (or at least the thrust of those concepts). In fact, I imagine a world where everyone is a "therapist" in some way. We could all use a little wisdom and (self)knowledge every now and then, and I would love to a part of the effort to make "therapy" more accessible and relevant to us laypeople (read: if you ever wanted to learn about therapy through conversational language, read this series!).
The "Depression Epidemic" is a sign that human potential is just waiting to be unleashed. Therapy might well turn out be one of the most effective vehicles for unleashing it.
It might not, also, but who's to say?
-David
[nsn_quick_feedback]
I believe that for many of these challenges, we don’t necessarily need high technology or extreme sophistication.
Off the top of my head, depression (slated to become the world’s 2nd leading disease burden by 2020) and education (it’s pretty much universally accepted we’re in deep trouble) both immediately strike me as crucial areas where advanced science and technology serve a tangential purpose. (Blasphemy, eh?)
Sure, they help, sometimes in revolutionary ways (The internet rocks, man), and sure they’re impressive (Drugs that can correct the chemical imbalances in your brain? Dayummn…). But at a certain point a device is just a device. (Shoutout to Steven and Raphael for our conversation last night that brought some of this stuff to mind)
It’s really all about the people, when you think about it. Of all our resources, human capital is the most undertapped, and holds the most promise.
There’s no question in my mind – what we need most urgently to do is to bring out the best in people. After all, we are the jumping off point for everything else.
To do this, we need to lend wings to the fearlessly creative people who will innovate, and to the relentlessly determined people who will implement.
And innovation often just means throwing together “old” pieces of the puzzle in fresh combinations, and watching magic happen. (Ex – the shipping container is just a box, it’s one of the most important inventions of all time. See here: http://www.gizmag.com/go/5716/)
***
In the past, I have been critical of therapy as a long-term solution to depression (not that I’m in any credible position to judge, but still, that was my opinion). But the more and more I read about it, the more and more I think therapy holds enormous potential.
I’ve come to realize that my problem with therapy lies not in the theory, but in the implementation. A lot of this has to do with the negative experiences I’ve had with it. At some point, I may share some of these stories with you, so you know where I’m coming from.
The fact is, my world is narrow – I’m young.
As I explore the out-of-the-box alternatives that I think might hold great potential for helping people overcome depression, and as I imagine the day my team and I launch the pilot program for our social venture, I can’t help but think about some of the older, more experienced, more credentialed, more legit professionals who probably will look down on me with utter disdain.
What gives me - a "nobody" - the right to assume such responsibilities?
My response is one that I come back to time and time again:
"To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men – that is genius."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
I’m young, but I do have a good amount and variety of life experience, both when it comes to the challenge I'm dealing with and when it comes to other things. And though my experiences most definitely will not be applicable to everyone, I know that some people resonate with them. As long as there are these few people, I’ll keep on, knowing that it's likely there are more. And based on some of the responses we’ve gotten already, I’m fairly confident we’re on to something with our ideas.
Everything else I need to know, I'll work hard to learn along the way.
But all this being considered, it’s high time I started educating myself on some of the stuff that's already out there - specifically on therapy. Because judging by some of the books I’m reading, there is indeed some incredible work being done by therapists around the world, and I feel it’s highly relevant that I learn about some of it. Of course I won’t be able to acquire the same sort of first-hand experience that an actual practicing therapist would, but I'll still be able to vicariously explore their world and pick their minds for ideas.
And you know what? When you really think about it, therapy really is all about the people. It’s really supposed to just be a mano-a-mano learning session, a transferrance of wisdom from “therapist” to “patient.”
Take off the white coats, strip the elite diplomas from the wall, and remove all the other barriers of ranks and labels and titles, and therapy is really just about finding the best ways for one person to inspire another, or for one person to help another inspire him/herself. At least that's how I see it.
With all this in mind, I’ve decided to start a series of posts on Therapy, of which this is the introductory post.
Check back in for my thoughts and ideas on therapy, as culled from my personal experiences, those of others, whatever literature I can get my hands on, and anything else that comes my way. Often, I will simply recap my findings without drawing connections at first, but I trust that the connections will start to forge themselves afterwards. And I promise to write in as non-academic and as accessible a way as possible. I firmly belive that even the most complex intellectual concepts can be communicated to the layman (or at least the thrust of those concepts). In fact, I imagine a world where everyone is a "therapist" in some way. We could all use a little wisdom and (self)knowledge every now and then, and I would love to a part of the effort to make "therapy" more accessible and relevant to us laypeople (read: if you ever wanted to learn about therapy through conversational language, read this series!).
The "Depression Epidemic" is a sign that human potential is just waiting to be unleashed. Therapy might well turn out be one of the most effective vehicles for unleashing it.
It might not, also, but who's to say?
-David
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