I recently spent some time in China over the Chinese (lunar) New Year. Let me share with you today a brief incident that reminded me of an important lesson.
Now, I’m normally not a picture taker. I don’t like lugging around a camera because I feel like it inhibits my freedom, and there’s always been something
false about photos that I dislike. How easy it is to misrepresent the past with the artistic hand/eye of a photographer and some conjured emotion from the photographed subjects! (The exception would be action shots or candids – the
genuine stuff)
On the other hand, there’s something awfully nice about flipping through old photos every once in a while. The passing of time sweetens even the shittiest of memories, and (for me) photographs remind me of this. Plus it’s nice to have some record of your existence – I admit, if it weren’t for the photo-snapping proclivities of others, I would have passed through young adulthood a photographic
ghost.
Anyway, one morning I took a walk for a few hours in the Chinese countryside, camera in tow. There’s something
real about China (esp the countryside) that strongly resonates with me, and despite China’s frenzied efforts to commercialize and industrialize, etc, this quality of
real is gonna be there for quite some time, I think. Often when I’m in the States, I miss that realness
terribly. So I try to capture it on camera when I get the chance.
Being sort of an outlier in the countryside (in terms of dress, height, general mannerisms, etc) I drew some funny looks just walking by. But when I started to take pictures of mundane everyday things (mundane and everyday for
them) I started to get the sense that people thought I was bonkers.
Frankly, though, most people didn’t really care. That’s something about China (at least certain parts of China) that I really enjoy – everybody can pretty much do their own thing, and as long as you’re not massively destroying things, etc, people won’t really pay you any mind. In this sense, it reminds me a little of NYC – there’s a strong sense of
anonymity, where everyone is too preoccupied with their
own business to care about
you. The point is, to them I was just another oddity, perhaps a little further out on the spectrum of
strange, but just a passing transient oddity nonetheless. No big deal.
Some people even engaged in good natured small-talk. A woman from amongst a group of trash workers I photographed (excuse the translation):
“What are
you photographing?”
“Oh, excuse me, I’m from America. Just curious…” (If in doubt, play the “I’m an ignorant American who finds your plain everyday reality utterly fascinating” card)
“America? Go home and show them how hard we work! On New Year’s too!” she said with a hearty (somewhat weary) laugh.
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But one man who happened to be in the background of a photo I took was
offended. Or at least pretty pissed off. I could tell.
“What are you looking at?” he said, subtly angry.
That’s another thing about the Chinese that I’ve noticed – in initial exchanges, even strong emotions are conveyed only latently. There’s a lot of
restrained passion, I think, and if you’re not aware of this layer of
restraint, you may not even notice what runs beneath it. (I may be wrong, haven’t really spent much time there, but that’s the feel I get)
Anyway, this man’s response set me thinking.
What right did I have to take these photos? To disturb his privacy? Intrude on his way of life? Etc. I immediately vowed to be more sensitive about other people’s privacy in the future.
But all this then led (and I followed) to another train of thought, separate but related.
What is really so valuable about taking photos anyway? ***
The more I consider it, the more I see
the importance of living in the moment. Live each moment like it’s your last. It’s cliché, but it’s damn good advice.
Taking photos can be nice, but when it gets to the point that the photos outstrip your own experience of an event, that’s just
absurd.
Let’s face it. No matter how much we may want to preserve a good memory, it’s ultimately not that important to do so.I say this as a writer – as someone who has a strong tendency to chronicle, and who naturally plays up the significance of things. (Writing is just photography w/language, no? It’s more
stealth, of course…)
I say this as someone who believes
memories are the most valuable things a person can accumulate in his or her life – more valuable than money, than recognition, etc.
I say this as someone who uses past memories as a
powerful source of motivation in my life – as
anchors to keep me going through tough times.
But I say this as someone who sees that what truly is vitally important is to learn to live in the here and now.
When I think hard on it, perhaps the most important thing in life is to learn to become independent. At least from the perspective of trying to be happy, independence is
crucial.
Independence from other people. Independence from external events. And independence from the past (and future). The fact is, people are inconsistent. I know this because
I am inconsistent. I’m sure if I read over old posts on this blog, I’d disagree with some of the things I wrote. And that’s fine – that’s
good, because if you’re not changing as you go along, you’re doing something wrong. But don’t put
too much hope in others, because that’s just not sustainable.
External events are largely out of your control. There are simply too many factors to consider – life is too
dynamic.
And the past? As sweet as memories can be, they’re still just that –
memories. The notion of being “washed up” or “out of one’s prime” is pure horseshit, I think. Even if there were some truth to it, you shouldn’t take such a defeatist approach. Each day holds the potential for new discovery, so
carpe diem like hell.
Don’t try to hold on to the past. Let go, and really live and try to put a fresh spin on each new day.***
I write this post at an interesting time for me.
On the one hand, my many obligations are leaving me less and less time to write for joy (for example, for this blog). I’m also increasingly feeling a sense of futility that comes with writing – the fact is, not many people know how to bridge the (supposed) gap between
reading and
changing one’s life. We’re out there, but we’re definitely in the minority, I’d say.
On the other hand, I have a lot of stories I’d like to get down, partly because I think they’re illustrative of good ideas, and partly because I take joy in doing so – as mentioned, writing satisfies for me a strong urge to chronicle.
And don’t get me wrong, chronicling
is important! After all, that’s how “civilization” started, right? Certainly, once we start the pilot program for our social venture, I’ll be doing a
hell of a lot of chronicling.
But I am someone who
majorly struggles with living in the moment. Sometimes I am immobilized
by past memories. And even in fresh exciting situations, I sometimes catch myself up in my head, preoccupied with this or that, rather than appreciating the gift of experiencing the
now.
I’ll be working hard to change this. And to some extent, this means I’ll be writing less – chronicling less – and
living more.
I hope
you will too.
I’ll also be working hard to strike the balance between
long-term plans (plans that require blind focus and sheer will to the exclusion of many other things, all in the name of “the big picture” goal) and
living in the moment.
Which, when you think about it, is an even
bigger picture way of looking at things – more important than even “success” and “achievement” and all that.
If you don’t trust me on this, try a few words from the Bible (I don’t care if you’re not religious, there’s some good stuff there, and it’s actually not a bad read):
Ecclesiastes The words of the Teacher, son of David, king in Jerusalem:
“Meaningless! Meaningless!”
says the Teacher.
“Utterly meaningless!
Everything is meaningless.”
In the various sections of Ecclesiastes, the Teacher’s proclamation is explained under various subheadings, among them:
Wisdom is meaningless. Pleasures are meaningless. Toil is meaningless. Advancement is meaningless. And so on.
There’s some really good stuff there, but for purposes of today, here’s the take home message:
“A man can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in his work.” In other words, live in the moment.
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I know this post was sort of rambling/incoherent, it’s been a while, but here’s what I was trying to convey:
Nothing is forever. You can’t have anything forever, so don’t cling. (Especially don’t cling to a negative/harmful sense of self – no matter how fucked up you think you are, you
can change, because
that’s not forever either)
Specifically when it comes to photo-obsessing, I rather like the old African belief that every picture taken of you steals a tiny bit of your soul from you. (Consider that before you embark upon a career in porn)
If you can really come to accept that nothing is forever, and learn to let go, you can derive a great deal of strength from that realization. It frees you to
Live in the moment. Learn to live with independence, including independence from the past and the future.
Live in the here and now.
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And you know what? Many of the peasants in the Chinese countryside intuitively understand this. They don't often have the luxury to constantly indulge in memories, which can so often be counterproductive or even harmful. So they
don't. There's something beautiful about living each day for itself, not for glory, not for the story, not for permanence, not for
anything...I guess what I'm trying to say is, life is beautiful itself, even if there's no deeper meaning to it. The peasant who got angry at me for taking his picture - he was just living his life, standing outside with his family and friends, living in the moment. Until I rudely fucked that up. I'm sorry, and I know I'll be careful to be more respectful in the future, but I definitely learned something...***
I want to be as free as the spirits of those who left
...
Never looking back or too far in front of me
The present is a gift
And I just wanne BE.
-Common in his album "Be"
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-David